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Let Go of (linear) TIME

IMG2445Why do we believe in the concept of time? The sun rises and sets and repeats this pattern with certainty “daily”. Meteorologists attempt to predict the hour and minute that this life-supporting mass of energy and light arises and disappears from our awareness, but even they aren’t exact with their timing. We also attempt to categorize ourselves as ages, time spans, and phases. Consider some 80-somethings who run marathons and are in better shape than many 20-somethings. Are they defying age and time, or are they more aware that time is irrelevant?
What is an hour, really? Does it matter? During springtime in the USA, we change the time to “spring forward” an hour. During autumn, we “fall backwards” an hour to save daylight. All it takes is a simple press of a button, and then time becomes different. Obviously linear time is not concrete. In Georgia (in the United States) when it is 7:00, it is simultaneously 4:00 in California. Both times seem accurate if we think about the sunshine; however if someone called from Georgia to California, would they be going back in time? Of course not.
It takes over 24 hours to fly to Africa from the USA. While you are on the plane during this flight, what time is it?

I used to be so caught up in the concept of linear time–thinking that I had to reach certain milestones by a certain age. When I embarked on my mid-twenties, I struggled with intense feelings of disappointment. I already had my undergraduate degree and was pursuing a graduate degree. Yet, by my 26th birthday, I thought I would be married, have my PhD, and possibly have a child on the way with my happy husband. I believed the lie that I only had a specific set of years to accomplish these things. I believed the illusion that I was “running out of time”. I cried, feeling like I was off track and falling behind. (It didn’t help that my close friends were married and having children too.)

I sat and reflected on why I felt such despair. I enjoyed grad school, liked being on my own, and couldn’t imagine taking care of anyone else but me at the time. I asked myself where the feelings came from. I couldn’t come up with an answer other than the fact that everyone else said that I should have those things by a certain age. I felt silly. I knew better. (I was always a rebel, anyway.) So, I let go of timing, milestones, and deadlines. Whenever someone asked me, “When are you going to get married?” I laughed and sarcastically said, “At the right time.” I didn’t feel a rush to be something that I wasn’t ready to be, or to do something impulsive. It was such a relief! I appreciated where I was at in my journey, and remained open to the mystery of Divine “timing”.

Linear time is a funny thing because it isn’t real. Think about this: Even as I post this blog, I notice a different time on the post than what is on my clock. Nevertheless, both times are incorrect, because our Real time is this Moment.

So, why do we as humans buy into the concept of linear time? I think that we believe in linear time because it allows us to feel as though we have control. It is the illusion of predictability in a dynamic and fluid universe.

We must realize that all that time is, Is Now. The present is All.

We are Eternal Souls, thus we are timeless.

Take this moment and appreciate your journey.

Realize that who You Are is Infinite in nature.

Love, Light, and Infinity.
Intuitive Dana


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How Loving Another Reflects Self-Love

Relationships are very dynamic experiences that, by far, are one of the most important aspects of Life. We are always in relationship with someone or something at all times; including our Self. Some of the most profound interpersonal relationships that we experience are related to those who parent us (grandparents, biological parents, step parents, adopted, guardians, etc.), those whom we call family, those whom we have romantic interests, and those whom we view as allies.

When I was 15 years old, I read the Bible verses on the nature of love (1 Corinthians 13:4-8 for those of you who are curious). In summary, it says that love is patient, kind, forgiving, selfless, always victorious, and is Eternal. For some reason, I felt a strong conviction in my heart and made a vow to myself that I would learn to love others just like it is written in those verses. I had already believed that love was a powerful force, and I was becoming more aware of the misuse of the word in every day society and media.

Little did I know, this vow seemed to be the precipice for increased difficulties in all of my relationships over many years. I had problems with my family, was isolated from my friends, changed jobs often, and faced painful romantic failures too.
From my point of view, I loved others unconditionally, but was only being let down in return. I wanted to blame everyone else, but I couldn’t. I forgave easily. I didn’t hold grudges. I let people walk in and out of my life as they pleased. I had the misconception that this is how I could show others love. While everyone else received such forgiveness, I secretly got angry with myself for being such a pushover.

It didn’t dawn on me that I was missing Self-Love until I went through a period of time where I was forced to live alone, with no television. I had a spacious home, but no furniture, and no bed. I was single and dateless. I ate my meals cross-legged on the floor, and I slept on an air mattress during the night. I spent most of my time reading religious books and spiritual texts, doing energy healings, and meditating. Life was very simple, but fulfilling.

During this time, I reflected on my understanding of love and relationships. I realized that I had fallen prey to associating love with pain and drama. All of my challenging relationships essentially showed me how much I needed to look within. I was only experiencing what I subconsciously believed. I discovered how important it was to know myself, express what I need, and to let go of relationships that were not healthy for me. I learned what it meant to take care of myself and love who I Am. I finally understood that it was okay to say no and to set limits with others. With this new knowledge, my desire to embody unconditional love did not change; however my understanding of what it looks like did.

These are my valuable lessons on love:
Loving someone means allowing the person to be exactly who he or she is, even if that person is not what you desire. It does not necessarily mean putting that person’s needs over yours, but respecting yourself, your needs, and compromising in a reasonable way. Loving someone is appreciating the experience that you share, while also letting go of expectations.

Loving someone stems from first knowing yourself, loving who you are, and allowing Life to flow as it may.

What lessons have you learned?


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Why I use the name “Intuitive Dana”

Welcome to the first post on the Metaphysical Freedom Blog!
I am Dana; however I choose to use the name Intuitive Dana. Let me share with you a little bit of information about who I Am.

I have always been very inquisitive about human behaviors and thoughts, and how they relate to mental, emotional, and physical health. I grew up in a small town in South Georgia. I was raised in a traditional Southern Baptist Christian home where the Holy Bible and the Baptist church were the major parameters of our religion and spirituality. From my youth into my early adult years, I struggled with making sense of some of the unsaid things happening in my life, and things that happened within the Bible as well. I wondered, “How was Daniel able to interpret dreams?”, “Who told the Three Wise Men how to find Jesus?”, “How did Jesus heal people without being near them?”, and “What was it like to actually communicate with the angels?” I pondered these things because I was having some “paranormal” activity in my own life. I had dreams that were premonitions, sensed when other energies were around me, and I knew things that I shouldn’t have known for my age. Every time I tried to communicate my experiences to others, I was given weird looks and told to stop whatever voodoo magic that I was doing. Yet, I wasn’t ‘doing’ anything. The events happened naturally, and often unexpectedly. But, just like any person who does not want to be viewed as an outcast, I began to conform. I stopped talking about what was happening, and dealt with those events in silence…for several years. Of course, the silence did not work because I wasn’t being true to myself. I could not ignore such powerful revelations of information, unusual synchronicities, and life-saving occurrences.
I built up enough courage to begin seeking others with similar experiences as me. As soon as I started the search, numerous doors opened. I was introduced to various meditative practices, and I found centers where I could further develop my spiritual-intuitive gifts. Many people may use the terms “clairvoyant” or “psychic” to describe these talents. I simply prefer to say that I am ‘Intuitive’ and everyone has the ability to dig deeper and access their True Knowing.
Not only did I learn about healing modalities, but I also found philosophies that were more in alignment with what I innately believed. I learned about the power of the Present moment, the power of Intention, and the limitless power of Unconditional Love. I now have a deeper understanding that each one of us needs the other because we learn lifelong lessons from each other.
I am growing in my journey, and continually evolving in the mastery of my unique gifts. I am deeply passionate about using these gifts to bless the lovely Beings in this universe (like you), and I find fulfillment in helping others to gain clarity in their own lives.
So, here I am. Allow me to share these blessings with you, and in return, be blessed by you.

Love, Light, and Infinity.

DD
Intuitive Dana